The Motherhood Metamorphosis

Amy Cirksena: Digging deep into the Stay at home mom adjustment

January 10, 2022 Brittany Meng Season 1 Episode 17
The Motherhood Metamorphosis
Amy Cirksena: Digging deep into the Stay at home mom adjustment
Show Notes

Amy is a stay at home mom of two boys, ages 4 & 2, living in Maryland. 

Amy and I dig deep into the question of "why is the transition to SAHM SO HARD?"

We talk about invisible work; loss of identity; not contributing to family finances; choosing to stay at home vs. not having a choice; the sameness of stay-at-home-mom life, no validation from co-workers or bosses; and discouragement from friends who say things like “but you’re so smart...I don't know why you're staying home with your kids."

This episode is honest, validating, encouraging, and affirming to stay at home parents everywhere. 

Quotable Quotes: 

Amy: (tongue in cheek) “I came in to being a stay a home mom, as a NEW mom, I was like, “I GOT THIS! It’s fine! It’ll be fine! I have a college degree…I’m a SMART person! I can handle children!” 

Brittany: “Visible work is so much easier to reward, either with money or a high five (be that physical or metaphorical. But invisible work, which is THE work of motherhood, is so easy to dismiss. You don’t see it so you don’t reward it.”

"We have to silence to voices in society by making our own voice louder in our lives."
 
 “Maybe that’s the real work every day as a woman—who is also a stay at home mom—is keeping yourself aware and mentally healthy, because I think the default so many times is negativity.”

Find Amy here: 
Instagram @amy_cirksena 
She also writes about love, loss and motherhood as a contributor for HVFH and Still Standing Magazine. 



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